Things I meant to say naked

Trying to Be Patient With a Man Who’s Sending Mixed Signals: letter from a lover (listener)

Figs Season 1 Episode 9

Today’s episode features an anonymous letter from a listener navigating the blurry, emotionally charged terrain of a situationship that refuses to stay casual. After a recent divorce and a firm decision to “take things slow,” what begins as an easy reconnection slowly turns into daily check-ins, intimacy, emotional support, and mixed signals that don’t quite line up with the label nothing serious.

Together, we unpack what it means when words and actions don’t match, why consistency can feel more powerful than commitment, and how attachment, timing, and self-protection shape modern dating. This episode explores the quiet confusion of relationships without titles, the comfort of being chosen without promises, and the question many of us avoid asking out loud:

Can this be healing, or is this the bare minimum?

If you’ve ever felt emotionally close to someone who insists they don’t want more—yet keeps showing up anyway—this one is for you.


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I want to hear from you. What are things you meant to say naked— the truths, the questions, the unsent texts?