Things I meant to say naked
Things I Meant to Say Naked is a podcast about desire, intimacy, and the naked truths we carry in our bodies. Hosted by Figs—a certified sex therapist and chronic overthinker—this show explores the messy and beautiful parts of being human and wanting connection.
Each episode blends sex education, emotional insight, cultural commentary, and the occasional confession. Some episodes are solo: just Figs unpacking love, shame, eroticism, and everything in between. Others feature guests, lovers, and listeners who want to confess things they "meant to say naked.”
Whether you’re curious, confused, healing, or horny—you’re welcome here.
Things I meant to say naked
why men send dick pics?
The dick pic. Or should I call it: genital gerrymandering?
Today's episode focuses on just how common are dick pics? Why our penis princes send them? And what to consider before concocking a photo creation.
Citation and things I read for this episode:
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artwork referenced in today's episode: https://imgur.com/mosaic-of-donald-trump-made-with-500-pics-0PEkVxx
cover art: bofenglin