why do men send dick pics?

The dick pic. Or should I call it: genital gerrymandering?

Today's episode focuses on just how common are dick pics? Why our penis princes send them? And what to consider before concocking a photo creation.

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artwork referenced in today's episode: https://imgur.com/mosaic-of-donald-trump-made-with-500-pics-0PEkVxx

cover art: bofenglin

Transcript

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It's a little disappointing to say this. I don't know any woman in my age group who has never gotten some form of unsolicited dick pic. I hope that's not the case. I hope the proportion of women who've gotten dick pics is much smaller than that. Because it is, quite frankly, that is a form of essay. And I just I just genuinely don't wish that upon a person. But it's just a common occurrence, especially when I was in college. It's ridiculous. And if you have never gotten one, which is I really hope is the case, you're you're minding your business, you're having a great day. I don't know, maybe you're gardening. You get a notification, and most of the time it's someone you barely talk to. You'll click on the DM, says image, like, oh, that's bizarre. You click on it, and it's just a penis. No context, no story, there's no plot. Maybe you'll get a hand in there. Okay? Maybe. But that's it. When I get one, I'm just like struck with confusion, and then go through like my own steps of grief where I'm like met with anger and disbelief, and then it's just disgust. I immediately delete it, and many times I block the vote the senders all the time, actually. So you can imagine the absolute shock and surprise when I was staying over at my friend's house last year, couch surfing, you guessed it, and we were watching Free Ren, which is an amazing anime. If you want to feel something, watch Free Ren, you will feel things. And I think I don't know what episode it was, but I know I was about to get like really choked up. But instead I got choked by some other comment from my the other side of the couch, and he just says to me, Fix, do you have a penis folder? To pause the movie, pause the show. A what, buddy? A penis folder. What what is a penis folder? And he proceeded to tell me in gay dating, gay meeting, gay eye contact, there's just so much dick pic, unsolicited dick pic, involved that it becomes like oversaturated. And his way of taking control and power back in the situation to keep track of the dick pics, he created a penis folder. Yeah, yeah. My reaction to him was very similar to my reaction to receiving a dick pic. So I was like, okay, okay, buddy. And I just went back to Freerun, played the show, and I I just couldn't, I couldn't go back to it. I couldn't. I had to pause it again. I look at him, I'm like, so is it organized? Because when I think folder, I think categories. You see, I'm a Virgo moon. I am organized. A bitch will be organized. And I'm just thinking, is is there like folders of accepted dick, rejected dick, seen in person, um, realistic dick? I that's where my mind is going. And he just laughed and he he didn't answer my question. And I'm still pondering it. I'm like, I hope he's organized. Okay, we need some organization in this chaotic world at least. And it just always stuck to me, stuck with me. And I didn't realize how much is stuck with me until months later, and he's couch surfing at my place here in Colombia. And we were going out with a friend and her younger cousin, who's just a few years younger than us. And while we were out, you guessed it. She got a dick pic. She didn't even ask for. We all kind of like saw it over her shoulder because it was just literally that much of a surprise, like, oh, penis. That my best friend and I looked at each other, looked back at her, then looked at back at each other, and in unison asked her, Hey, do you have a penis folder? So today's episode, we are gonna talk about the psychology of dick pics, why men send them, and the reactions to dick pics. I'm not really gonna talk about how you should react to a dick pic, but I am obviously gonna talk about things to consider, right? Before sending them, fellas. Welcome to Things I'm Meant to Say Naked, a podcast about mental health, desire, intimacy, and the treats that we carry in our bodies. I'm Fix, a certified sex therapist, a licensed mental cancer, a lover, and someone who is spending way too much time thinking and shit is education. Seven episodes will be just me. So get comfy and let's get into the things that we were meant to say naked. Although this podcast explores themes of mental health, relationships, and sexuality, it's for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you find yourself struggling, please reach out to a licensed provider in your area. So for today's topic, obviously, I had to answer like that first question I had, which was how common are dick pics? Like, am I a representative sample? Like, is the sample size around me a representative of the general population? I I really had to know, and it's not great. It is just as I feared, unfortunately. So in 2017, UGO created a survey, about 2,302 adults, if you want to be specific, of millennials. I I I'm generally curious to see how this number will change with Gen Z being adults, but anyways, with millennials, about 27% of millennial men admitted to sending a dick pic. A little over a quarter. Figs, that is such a rare occurrence. I don't know anyone who sends a dick pic. Like in your friend group before, one of you have probably sent a dick pic. And of those 27% of men, 24 admittedly, has done so without being asked. I wonder if that is honest reporting. I wonder. Because when you look at the flip side of the millennial women in the survey, 53% of millennial women have received a dick pick. A little over half. You flip a coin, there's a chance you received a dick pic as a millennial woman. I don't know how it's like for a Gen Z. This is not a very representative sample of currently. But back then, and it's not even back then, it's 2017. So six years ago. Oh my god, that was bad math. That was eight years ago. Half of women have received millennial women have received a dick pic. Of those half of women, 78% those dick pics were unsolicited. 80%. Nearly 80% of those dick picks that they received were unsolicited. And it's funny, they I thought this was funny about the survey. So hearing that 80 nearly 80% of these women have received a dick pic without asking, they then asked. So I mean, did you ask for a dick pic? I I feel like that's almost like a gaslighting uh question. So if if you asked for one, when you asked for a dick pick, did you get one back? And the answer is 69%. That was from the UGO 2017 survey, and not only was that survey very millennial focused, it was also very heteronormative. So I found another survey, yeah, in 2021 with 2,045 women of all sexual identities and 298 gay bisexual men. Take a wild guess. Take a wild guess how that statistic has changed in 2021 minus 2017 in four years. Not much. Half of women, 49.6%, have received a dick pick. Yep, yep. And here's the kicker 90%, it's even higher than before. We're unsolicited. Wow, fellas. Yeah. And this did not differ. They found in the survey that this did not differ by age, sexual orientation, or time online for these women. When they asked, then also the gay and bisexual men, much like my friend, 80% of gay bisexual men have received dick pics, and 87% of that population was unsolicited. Yeah, not great. So it's funny. I love that this UGO survey exists from 2017. The audacity to ask these questions. No, the courage. This is a very necessary survey, let me just say. But I just I I wonder for the women and uh just the folks who received this survey, like how were how was their reaction to filling in the blanks, or I guess uh filling in the the letter or number? Because then they asked how women reacted to these dick pics. I thought it was obvious, but science, we don't focus on the obvious, we focus on the actual numbers and the answers. So in this survey, 49% of millennial women thought they were gross, and 24 just thought it was sad. Just a sad, sad penis. They did the study again of reactions of women in uh 2022. I actually don't have the number of the sample size, but they did find the most common reactions to dick pic was annoyance, disgust, and anger. This like the reactions did not really uh differ in terms of like sexual orientation of the women, but we did find in this one survey in 2021 a small percentage. I love my freaks and geeks. I love you girl girlies. 7 to 16 percent of the women who have received unsolicited dick pics, 61% felt entertained, and 43% felt curious. I I I can see the character because we all know one. I can just see her receiving him like, oh, what's that? It has the mole static curve. Like, I could just see that as the reaction. It's like he's trying to be funny, or he's trying to catch my attention. I that's what I'm thinking in response to that um 16%, 7 to 16, the small margin of women that had any positive reactions to unsolicited dick pics. You have to understand a grand majority of women in these surveys have negative reactions. When I was like looking up and researching and finding studies on dick pics, there was actually a lot of resources I found out there that there's actually online support groups for women who have received dick pics. There are flow charts of don't send a dick pic flowchart. There's Snapchat dick pic alert groups. There's revenge porn blogs of seeking revenge by sharing the images. There's so much out there. You know, it also came out. I don't know if you guys remember this, but there's this giant mosaic that was created a couple years back of President Thou Who Shall Not Be Named. Let's go with that. Uh, there's this giant mosaic of him after his very infamous interview. His image is made of tiny little images of unsolicited dick pics. Look it up. If I find it, I will put it on the link or in this description along with all my citations and resources regarding this topic. But I just thought it was really funny. So that's more so with AFAB. I will go into the AMAB in a second. AFab means assigned female at birth, AMAB means assigned male at birth. In the study of back in 2021, so not that long ago, gay bisexual men who have received dick pics. This kind of explains a little bit why my reaction, which is horror, I don't want dad to take up any kind of bite of my phone. Not a gigabyte, not a like uh what's what's bigger and smaller than a gigabyte, a nanobyte of my phone, right? Compared to my friend who has a penis folder. So in the survey about game bisexual men that have received dick pics, 44% responded with entertained. Yeah. Look at that. It's penis. 41% felt curious, so very much similar to what I said before. Like, huh. Well, you look at that. Hmm. I wonder what they can do with that. 29% felt no positive feelings, and those with just negative reactions were low to 3 to 14 percent. A grand majority of these men in this survey, this psychological professional survey, 75% actually reported no negative reactions to dick pics. Wow. I think that that definitely needs to be explored why it has to be so split. It could be just the gay dating scene, it could be the power dynamics between men and women, heterosexual dating, violence against women. I feel like there's a lot of room for research in terms of like why this is such a large divide. I say that to researchers, and I think I'm gonna start saying that in my podcast, like whenever I find a gap in the literature in my field of human sexualities. In this other study back in 2022, they interviewed these gay and bisexual men that have received dick pics, and they said that the longer they spin on dating apps, the more they're unbothered by it, like the more they were indifferent. So, in other words, it might be not even a positive feeling, it might just be like an empty feeling, like okay. And what else? What else can you do? When the same study in 2022, and when they interviewed the game bisexual men, wow, they really went into this topic. I don't I love academia. I just love academia. I love it. I love that they're like, no, we're gonna ask these questions. And so they asked these men, what makes these negative reactions stronger when you do? And the responses were, well, if the dick pic was the first message, I get it. Um let's have a little conversation, have some decorum, you know? Don't send me one just from the jump. Uh, if the sender was unattractive, I love that. And if they weren't in the mood, I love a temperamental bitch. And so this feelings of like pretty much like meh, like indifference, pretty much it's just it aligns with already like pre-existing research in the gay and queer community. There's maybe these attitudes of like indifference or like why they should just be okay with dick pics is like, well, there's also like a lot of stereotyping within the gay community and outside the gay community, as gay men as always being always down and promiscuous. So I can understand that the consensus of receiving and sending and be like, this is what is is expected of you for you to fit in and be part of this community. And I think that can be pretty harmful. Consent communication. Actually, there was a lot of studies on consent communication in the gay community, and I feel like that should be a topic in itself. It tends to be nonverbal, and saying no is most likely demonstrated with pushing somebody away, but it's that's kind of hard to do when it's virtual. And dick pics have become synonymous with online dating culture. That's actually said in a study in 2019 by Mondo, and this can also make why men feel like they shouldn't respond negative to dick pics. So, no matter how you put it, for the most part, dick pics aren't asked for. And there's very small margins of women asking for dick pics. So that's why today, when I talk about dick pics, I'm primarily gonna be talking about unsolicited dick pics. So, as you can see, the reaction for women is primarily negative. We don't want a dick pic. And for gay and bisexual men, the reaction is more like meh. Okay. And I feel like this is such common knowledge. Again, I cannot make that assumption that we are talking to one another after the pandemic. I feel like we're not talking enough. But I I would like to think that we understand, as just like as a general population, that for the most part, nobody wants to see your fucking dick. But I digress. I mean, what we're trying to understand. So why do we send dick pics? Okay. So I found some studies. Love them. And uh what we found was that there was actually this study back in 2020 by Oswald et al. Thank you, Oswald. I referenced you before in my Instagram. I love it. I loved your study. I enjoy reading it. It's really funny. So Oswald and all actually studied 1,087 straight men. And he was studying the motivation for straight men for sending dick pics. Well, 43% of the men in the survey wanted to get a nude back. So the reason the motivation they sent a dick pic is like, well, I sent you one. Send me the nudes. Send me the nudes. Okay, that's for the for the good portion of this survey, 43% hope to get a nude back. So some kind of social exchange happening. One of the most common forms of social exchange theory that you can see is, for example, men paying for dinner on a heterosexual date and expecting something in return. So the same thing is applying right now for dick pics. About 43% of men who send dick pics do so to get a new return. 32.5% said that they use it as partner hunting, that they're hoping that would turn someone on or signal sexual interest. That is fucking hilarious. You are telling me about 30%, a little over a quarter of the guys that send dick pics, are just sending them. See uh what Patches. Do you want it? Penis? Penis anyone? My penis. I that's literally what I'm seeing. It's just like I the the gall. The gall. Does I does that strategy even work? Well, based on the statistics, yeah. I mean, there are some women that find it curious and entertaining. It's just such a small proportion. That's really a gamble. I just I would wonder what are the chances that you send a dick pic out into the ether and she would have a positive reaction and said, Yes, come over here. This one was the funniest one. I have to say that. And then there was a good proportion of men, other than the 32.5%, a good proportion of men that just wanted some kind of reaction. That's all they wanted was a reaction. So the reactions that men were hoping to send a dick pic, 82% were feel hope that the reaction they get from the recipient is excited. 50% were hoping that they will like that of the recipient would think that they were attractive. Wow. I mean, I guess it has to you have to have some balls, I guess, to to really send a dick pig and be like, she's gonna like this. I just know she wants this. I just oh my god, men, you guys make me laugh sometimes. I this is why I love psychology. You just you just have to laugh. This is hilarious. And um what what we also found was that some men were hoping for a negative reaction. Yeah. 17 wanted shock, 15% wanted fear, and 11% hope for disgust. In fact, there was only a quarter of the men that were hoping a positive reaction over a negative. In other words, they just wanted to you to react. It didn't matter if it was positive or was negative. They were hoping for more positive. For the most part, most of these men wanted a positive reaction, but some of them wanted the negative. And I just in a way think that this is kind of like some form of like shame kink of like, yes, tell me my penis is small. Tell me how disgusting I am, tell me how I'm a pig. Like, I that's what I'm I'm getting from this, and I don't like to kink shame, but I do like to shame folks who are sending sexual material without someone's consent. So that's what we're getting from here. It's just for the most part, they're hoping for some kind of reaction from the recipient. Well, you are going to love the study. If that was bleak, you are going to love the study by Ditzel 2022. Same from the the serve, the the same guy who interviewed those game bisexual men. You're going to love the responses of that study. This one was the funniest thing I read in academia. And as a nerd, I was laughing. Okay. In 2022, so they were asking, why do you send dick pics? And the responses were just like wonderfully gay. I love it. Well, the first response or most common was just like this to get some attention. To gauge the second was gauge willingness to chat. Hey. I love this. Uh, the third most common theme was to inform and show their body type, which I mean, it is very important and big part of a gay community dating. We have so many terms and terminology for if you're a top, if you're a bottom, your body shape and size. So yeah, I mean, if I only like bears, I need to see what kind of bear you are. Show me all the bear. So I I get that one. And then the last response it's the best one. Simply because they were horny, bored, drunk, and hoping to encourage some sex. I love this one. Ditzel, if you're still doing studies, invite me. I I would love to be an interviewer. I generally would love to be an interviewer because this sounds like so much fun in the same study by Ditzel. Many of the respondents weren't sure if sending a dick pick will hurt or help their chances of connecting. They didn't even know if it was gonna help. Let's give this a shot. Here's my penis. Do you like it or not? It's it's really shooting out to the dark. It really is. You just this may work, this may not. No. Let me just send the most intimate part of my body. There they just literally like, meh, here you go. Which leads me to believe that I I think probably gay men have folders of their own penises, just just based on the responses I'm seeing here. I I wouldn't be surprised to hear that from a client in the future or just friends that I make along the way, because this is hilarious. So while I was actually finding and just doing research on gay dating, gay online dating, there was this one researcher, his name is please forgive me for pronunciation. I hate when people mispronounce my name. So uh Evangelos Tizialas 2015. Well, in 2015, he made an argument about grindr and scruff and how it uses a game-like model to keep gay, queer men, queer folks engaged in grinder. And it was really freaking cool. So I'm just gonna include this, even though it has nothing to do with dick pics. Well, I mean, kind of. You'll see how dick picks play into it. It's not the focus. I thought it was just really cool. So he was saying that grinder was designed to feel like a video game, and video games are meant to be engaging. So you can customize your avatar with your tribe. We have the twinks and we have the twonks. We got the bears, we got the otters, we got the daddies, we got the femmes, we got the drags, we have the gamers. You can also customize your avatar with kinks. So top bottom, anon, bubble butt. I love that. Bubble butt, cut, uncut, friends with benefits, deal. These are ways that you can customize your icon like just a video game. And then that in this game, you can win and you can lose. So by winning, you win the game by getting stars, becoming a person's favorite, receiving dick pics, hookups, and validations from other players, and you can lose the game by getting blocked, rejected, or ghosted, or just like that study from Didsel 2022, maybe you send a dick pic and you get no response, or you get blocked. I mean, you don't know if it's gonna work or not. That's losing the game. And by playing the game, you actually develop like strategy. There's ways, and I hear this all the time by my gay friends, that they will do is that they will open grinder in certain neighborhoods that they have an assumption that there'll be more queer people or have a higher sex social economic class to attract more candidates. You can change your photos to entice more people, maybe adjust your weight. You can identify as one community even though you identify another, right? There's so much strategy when it comes to gay online dating that it can feel like a game, and that's what keeps people going and maintaining and staying on these apps. So I thought that was really, really cool. And then on top of that, you know, there's just like video games. Um, you know how like you can buy stuff like premiums that help you get like a leg up in the game? They do that with the premiums that are inside of Grinder. And I can imagine, in terms of like this gamified grinder situation, dick pics play a big role, right? How is your dick compared to the other dicks in my penis folder? Are you ready to send me a dick picks? Do you have your own penis folder in this? You know what I mean? I need to know. Good luck. And like it's it becomes like almost like this fight or this argument or this playfulness of one upping, one downing, and it's just at the same time people's egos and feelings are getting hurt. And it does not surprise me when I hear in my office and with my friends that it can feel very empty, it can feel very strategic, it can feel very surface level. Because I mean, if you're putting like this, like a game, where is their actual conversation? I mean, there's I mean, in this one survey, they're saying that some gay men will just send dick pics as a start of conversation. No, I don't even I shouldn't even say that, just men. As you notice, gap in the literature doesn't really include trans and genderqueer folks. Hey! We need to know that. I I just wonder, I I'm very curious to hear whether proportion of genderqueer folks in terms of receiving dick pics, just so because I know that trans folks and genderqueer folks are much how have a high-to-heart proportion of being essayed, uh, violence against them and stigma towards them. And I wonder if that changes the proportion of senders feeling like it's okay. I'm just curious because obviously some of the reactions here is have a negative reaction. And if you are a minority, a lot of times people want a negative reaction from the minority. I've said before, I am not gonna tell people how to react to a dick pic, an unsolicited dick pic, because at the end of the day, it's a form of sexual assault. I I feel like if I tell you how to react, I'm invalidating how you react and the feelings that you feel. I rather you just feel them and let your intuition, your feelings guide your reactions. If you want to seek revenge, I didn't say it. If you want to react in anger and sadness, I think that's all valid because at the end of the day, something was done to you in which you have no say, no consent. It was just sent to you. So I I that's why I have no notes for those who are receiving dick pics. If you want to laugh, laugh. Go ahead. You want to have a penis folder, have a penis folder. The only thing that I will say is that I would like to not continue the cycles of abuse by sharing unsolicited dick pics with others. Just like I don't want any kind of revenge porn out there. There's one thing sending an image to one person, and there's another thing like sending to that person, and that person shares it with other people. And by you doing that, you are repeating the cycles of abuse. I will say that's my only point that I'm really against, but I do not want to tell someone who receives it how to feel. I feel like that's just a form of victim blaming. So I'm gonna stop right there. In terms of the people, and I'm saying people because I'm not gonna be as binary as the studies I'm mentioning. The folks, okay, the general givers, right? The penis pioneers, whatever you want to say, phallus frontiers. Okay. I'm just gonna give you some questions. I want you to consider something before you send a dick pic. Okay, let's look into context, all right? First of all, are you guys like in the middle of sexting? Is this a person that you've been having? Are you in a committed relationship with, maybe a sexual relationship with, friends with benefits, casual situationship? Is this someone that you are sexting and the material between you both of you is in fact explicit? Let's look at that. Or is this a person that doesn't know you, or maybe they do know you, but that hasn't been shared before that they want that from you? Or it hasn't been spoken between the two of you. I let's put, let's look at that. And before we send a dick pic, I want you to ask yourself, like, are you secting? Is this part of the sexting? Did they ask? Okay, do they send me a nude first? I have sent a couple of nudes in my lifetime. I'm not gonna pretend I didn't, but I will say every single time that I have sent a nude, someone has asked me for a nude. I have not done it unsolicitely. But let's just say, did they solicit? Did they send you a nude that they want that reciprocation? Consider it. Is this platform for dick pics? Another context, like we don't really I I don't want to like put down grinder. But is this grind or is this Facebook Marketplace? I don't know. I I don't think there's any dick pics in Facebook Marketplace. I hope not. But you know, you get what I'm saying. And before you hit send, ask for consent. Hey, do you want to see my dick? You can make it flirty, you can make it sexual. If you have plans to meet up this person later in the in the evening in the weekend, is like, hey, do you want to see what's happening, what's coming on Friday? Or you can say, I can't wait for blank to do this to you. Do you see how much this turns me on? Do you want to see how much this turns me on? Right? We're asking. We're being flirtatious even. We're giving more context. And maybe after hearing all this, you still have this need inside of you. So the world must see my penis. Look no further ado. Okay, I got resources. So back in the age of Tumblr, there was this chain that was called Rate My Penis. Actually, it was called Let me be more accurate here. I like to cite my sources, Critique My Dick Pick, in which people send dick pics and people respond to the dick pics. These are people that want the dick pics. And there may or may not be certain threads that still exist on Reddit where people want to see your dick. That's where they want right there. Right there. Go there. Or maybe I don't know, get into the industry. If the world needs to see that penis, if you are proud of that penis, I am sex work positive. But nope, in all the situations people want to see your penis, they're asking for your penis. Not you just showing it. Just some food for thought. This has been wonderful. And I hope after this episode, you will consider hey, should I make my penis folder?