Things I meant to say naked
Things I Meant to Say Naked is a podcast about desire, intimacy, and the naked truths we carry in our bodies. Hosted by Figs—a certified sex therapist and chronic overthinker—this show explores the messy and beautiful parts of being human and wanting connection.
Each episode blends sex education, emotional insight, cultural commentary, and the occasional confession. Some episodes are solo: just Figs unpacking love, shame, eroticism, and everything in between. Others feature guests, lovers, and listeners who want to confess things they "meant to say naked.”
Whether you’re curious, confused, healing, or horny—you’re welcome here.
Things I meant to say naked
Do we let the dogs out? Keeping pets in the bedroom
It sounds funny, but for many couples, pets in the bedroom can spark real tension around intimacy. Do you let them stay? Do you kick them out? And what does each choice say about us? Figs dives into our desire, boundaries, and relationship with pets in “Do we let the dogs out?”
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cover art: @bofenglin